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  Undecided

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

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  i have recently been disfellowshipped (after being reinstated in march).

  i saw a group of jws gathered in the town car park yesterday.

  they seemed startled when they recognised my car and talked amongst themselves giving one another a satisfied grin!

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  Disassociated Lady 2

  Hi Finkelstein:

  You asked "I was just wondering how you got DFed in just matter of months".

  I got reinstated in March after being out 26 years. My Dad died last year and I promised him I would go back. My husband and I divorced in 2012 and I would have been homeless if a friend had not taken me into her home. I am still living there and the elders wanted me to move out as she is a Witch/Wisewoman. They said they would not have reinstated me had they known exactly who the lady was. Anyway I cannot afford to move out and get a place of my own, not them or my JW family offered me any help, so they disfellowshipped me. :-( x
  
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  Undecided

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i have recently been disfellowshipped (after being reinstated in march).

  i saw a group of jws gathered in the town car park yesterday.

  they seemed startled when they recognised my car and talked amongst themselves giving one another a satisfied grin!

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  Disassociated Lady 2

  I have recently been disfellowshipped (after being reinstated in March). I saw a group of JWs gathered in the town car park yesterday. They seemed startled when they recognised my car and talked amongst themselves giving one another a satisfied grin! An overweight "brother" who waddles around like a frightened rabbit seemed scared of me when I attended meetings before and made it pretty obvious he didn't like me being in the congregation. I watched him walk off with his dutiful wife and two very pretty teenage daughters.

  Since then I have been wondering whether to attend the meetings just for the hell of it. The elders there and others (mainly men) who were uncomfortable with my presence and made it difficult for me until they drove me out. I hated the fact that they would be satisfied about it. I don't want to get reinstated I would just like to attend meetings and show them they have no power over me and I can be there if I want to. Thoughts please?
  
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  Family contact in terminal illness cases.

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

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  i had not seen my parents for over 15 years since the funeral of my brother and even then no one spoke to me as i was da.

  my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2014 and i was then permitted contact with them.

  i now know the reason that this is allowed.

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  Thank you for those comments and as you say there are many in the same situation. I cant understand why these people make so many excuses for JW behaviour (apart from the brainwashing that is). I know someone who's mother is ill and a JW. Her daughter is a SPIRIT MEDIUM and takes her to hospital, does her mums housework and visits often. The JWs are aware of this but will turn a blind eye to her associating with her daughter rather than help this woman out herself.

  Mind you, if I was my mum's only daughter she would have to accept help from me, but because I have two JW brothers and an inactive sister (who lives with her boyfriend and shouldn't be classed as a JW but they turn a blind eye to it.) She looks after my mum) and has social nights out with JWs too because she has not been disfellowshipped. so corrupt! :-( x
  
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  Family contact in terminal illness cases.

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i had not seen my parents for over 15 years since the funeral of my brother and even then no one spoke to me as i was da.

  my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2014 and i was then permitted contact with them.

  i now know the reason that this is allowed.

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  I was so disappointed for my parents after all the effort they had put in throughout their lives and even now I know my Mum makes excuses for them.

  I also heard of a sister who was forced to use a church charity when she was ill as there was no one else to help her. I can imagine she would have been in big trouble for that!
  
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  Family contact in terminal illness cases.

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i had not seen my parents for over 15 years since the funeral of my brother and even then no one spoke to me as i was da.

  my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2014 and i was then permitted contact with them.

  i now know the reason that this is allowed.

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  I had not seen my parents for over 15 years since the funeral of my brother and even then no one spoke to me as I was DA. My Dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2014 and I was then permitted contact with them. I now know the reason that this is allowed. You are so pleased to be with your family again that you would do anything for them. If you are around to care for them when they are dying the JWs don't have to do it themselves. My Dad passed away in May 2015 and he had been baptized since 1958. They paid a visit now and again when he was ill but did not help with his care etc. They don't visit my mother either now she is alone. My parents wasted their lives for nearly 60 years and tried their best to conform and that is how important faithful servants are to them. Heartbreaking! :-( x
  
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  WT "Study" for 4th September 2016 - “Seek the Kingdom, Not Things”

  by Nicholaus Kopernicus in

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  i’m sitting there in the kingdom hall just thinking how rich it is of the gbojw to preach about materialism when they have recently been evidenced to be using bro’s & sis’ contributions to the world wide work to travel business class!

  just that thought alone was leading me to read scripture while they were all engaged in the wt “study”.. however, then it came to paragraph 17 and i blurted / choked a little.

  the paragraph said that “we should not imitate the people of ‘the nations,’ who have no real faith in a loving heavenly father who cares for those who put the interests of his kingdom first in their life.”.

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  Whether this religion is true or not ( I doubt it) I would not want to live forever with hypocrites like that anyway >:-( x
  
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  Just deleted all elders phone numbers

  by Chook in

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  2. experiences

  flying blind on the incoming calls but i am not fearfully looking around and will approach any religious zealots like a warrior.

  there nothing like the unpredictable, because these men it's all about the prediction..

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  The elders wouldn't let me fade, as soon as I got reinstated they hounded me and dug up all kinds of information from my past refusing to believe I was no longer doing those things so they could disfellowship me again. they are now getting wise to the "fade" tactic grrrrr >:-( xxx
  
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  Happiness and Freedom On A Paradise Earth?

  by Disassociated Lady 2 in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  at a recent meeting there was a watchtower article about life in paradise.

  they were saying that even when witnesses finally get there they will still be under the strict instructions from the elders and gb.

  they may be given jobs that they will find unpleasant, also the preaching work will be ongoing because of all the resurrected people who need to learn about why they are given another chance.

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  The film 1984 comes to mind when you think about the new system!!! x
  
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  JW hospitality

  by Chook in

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  2. experiences

  about 5 years ago when i was in, my son who at the time was 18 needed somewhere to sleep for a couple of nights due to work commitments ,in a city 2 hours from home.

  my "best man" who is an elder that lives in this city , was asked could my son stay a couple of nights .

  the response was he doesn't go to meetings anymore ,he can't stay here , i ask can he sleep on garage floor instead , still can't stay .

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  The elders had a problem with where I was living as I was left homeless after a divorce, I coudnt go to the JWs or family as I was shunned. A woman who is a retired wise women/witch was kind enough to let me stay with her. The elders told me I had to move out of her home which I cannot afford to do as I also have work in this area, but I would not be permitted to go anywhere near the area again or have anything to do with this so called EVIL woman!!! I have been offered no help from, them or my family so they are now disfellowhipping me because I cant afford to move out. x
  
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  Can’t cope with being disfellowshipped…..Need some advice

  by xxBettyBoopxx in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  this site is great, i have been lurking for a while now.

  but i can’t get reinstated and have used some of the advice already given.. i was df’d many months ago and go to all the meetings and do all the preparation for the meetings, but the jc committee keep refusing me.

  tomorrow at the clam meeting i am puting yet another letter in and will be called for another dreadful jc meeting.. 1. what can i say to the elders to show that i am truly repentant?.

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  Disassociated Lady 2

  Take it from someone who was reinstated last March and will be disfellowshipped again this week. The elders will really put you through it particularly if you are a woman, I have just had 14 months of hell. Elders now know that people are getting reinstated just to have contact with their families and after reinstatement they will hound you and check up on you to find reasons to kick you out again. Be prepared for an awful time. x